Addiction not only hurts the addict, but it hurts and causes many problems with the family. My husband, when we first met and for many years into our relationship, was an alcoholic. He put drinking before God, before our family, and before his own life many, many times. To say it was a strain on our relationship is an understatement. Addiction causes turmoil in the family. It causes pain, and it causes worry. We spent our first four years of our relationship fighting, fighting because of an addiction. I spent many nights worrying about how he was going to act, if I should hide the keys, or if my kids’ dad would be in jail or be able to continue providing for them.
There were many times I wanted to “throw in the towel” and break off this relationship. Many times I wondered if my kids and I deserved better. Yet, I also loved him, and our family together, and I knew the person he was when he was sober. When he was sober he was very hardworking, very loving, and really did care about us. When he was drunk, it seemed like it was a different story. He chose to party and hanging out with friends before he chose his family.
During this time of our lives, we did not have a very strong, or a very good relationship. I did not put my faith and my trust in God, that He knew what His plan was, and that He would get us through whatever we were going through at this point. However, God knew what was going to happen, and everything changed for us, in the blink of an eye.
On March 31, 2019, my husband, with the power of God and all His glory, became sober. Jeremiah 29:11 says, “For I know the plans I have for you declares the Lord, plans for welfare, and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope.” God had a plan for me, my husband, and our family. He changed our world and our life for the better! I am so glad and so very thankful that God gives us a second chance if we are willing to walk with Him.