Lesson Five: Delighting in the Family
Jayson Combs: Family Pastor
I am currently reading “The Lion, the Witch, and the Wardrobe” to my son. We just read about Edmund’s encounter with the great White Witch. The Witch offers Edmund Turkish delight, a dessert based on a gel of starch, sugar, and a little magic, to lure him in under her command. Immediately, the Turkish delight sets the hook and begins a wild ride of difficult events for Edmund and his siblings.
Titus 3:8: The saying is trustworthy, and I want you to insist on these things, so that those who have believed in God may be careful to devote themselves to good works. These things are excellent and profitable for people.
What are things in which you delight?
The dictionary defines delight as “a high degree of pleasure or enjoyment.” The Bible says that we have to be careful how we devote ourselves. What we delight in will have a tremendous impact on where our family goes and what they believe.
Genesis 19:1-26: The two angels came to Sodom in the evening, and Lot was sitting in the gate of Sodom. When Lot saw them, he rose to meet them and bowed himself with his face to the earth 2 and said, “My lords, please turn aside to your servant's house and spend the night and wash your feet. Then you may rise up early and go on your way.” They said, “No; we will spend the night in the town square.” 3 But he pressed them strongly; so they turned aside to him and entered his house. And he made them a feast and baked unleavened bread, and they ate.
4 But before they lay down, the men of the city, the men of Sodom, both young and old, all the people to the last man, surrounded the house. 5 And they called to Lot, “Where are the men who came to you tonight? Bring them out to us, that we may know them.” 6 Lot went out to the men at the entrance, shut the door after him, 7 and said, “I beg you, my brothers, do not act so wickedly. 8 Behold, I have two daughters who have not known any man. Let me bring them out to you, and do to them as you please. Only do nothing to these men, for they have come under the shelter of my roof.” 9 But they said, “Stand back!” And they said, “This fellow came to sojourn, and he has become the judge! Now we will deal worse with you than with them.” Then they pressed hard against the man Lot, and drew near to break the door down. 10 But the men reached out their hands and brought Lot into the house with them and shut the door. 11 And they struck with blindness the men who were at the entrance of the house, both small and great, so that they wore themselves out groping for the door.
12 Then the men said to Lot, “Have you anyone else here? Sons-in-law, sons, daughters, or anyone you have in the city, bring them out of the place. 13 For we are about to destroy this place, because the outcry against its people has become great before the Lord, and the Lord has sent us to destroy it.” 14 So Lot went out and said to his sons-in-law, who were to marry his daughters, “Up! Get out of this place, for the Lord is about to destroy the city.” But he seemed to his sons-in-law to be jesting.
15 As morning dawned, the angels urged Lot, saying, “Up! Take your wife and your two daughters who are here, lest you be swept away in the punishment of the city.” 16 But he lingered. So the men seized him and his wife and his two daughters by the hand, the Lord being merciful to him, and they brought him out and set him outside the city. 17 And as they brought them out, one said, “Escape for your life. Do not look back or stop anywhere in the valley. Escape to the hills, lest you be swept away.” 18 And Lot said to them, “Oh, no, my lords. 19 Behold, your servant has found favor in your sight, and you have shown me great kindness in saving my life. But I cannot escape to the hills, lest the disaster overtake me and I die. 20 Behold, this city is near enough to flee to, and it is a little one. Let me escape there—is it not a little one?—and my life will be saved!” 21 He said to him, “Behold, I grant you this favor also, that I will not overthrow the city of which you have spoken. 22 Escape there quickly, for I can do nothing till you arrive there.” Therefore the name of the city was called Zoar.
23 The sun had risen on the earth when Lot came to Zoar. 24 Then the Lord rained on Sodom and Gomorrah sulfur and fire from the Lord out of heaven. 25 And he overthrew those cities, and all the valley, and all the inhabitants of the cities, and what grew on the ground. 26 But Lot's wife, behind him, looked back, and she became a pillar of salt.
In what city does Lot have his family?
What do we know about this city from these verses?
What do the angles/men tell Lot in verse 13?
2 Thessalonians 2:12: and so that all will be condemned who have not believed the truth but have delighted in wickedness.
Why must God’s love and God’s justice go hand in hand?
Genesis 19:15-16: As morning dawned, the angels urged Lot, saying, ‘Up! Take your wife and your two daughters who are here, lest you be swept away in the punishment of the city.’ 16 But he lingered. So the men seized him and his wife and his two daughters by the hand, the Lord being merciful to him, and they brought him out and set him outside the city.
What do the men/angels tell Lot to do?
Does Lot listen?
What do the men/angels do because of Lot’s action?
Why do the angels do this?
Genesis 19:17-19, and 26: And as they brought them out, one said, ‘Escape for your life. Do not look back or stop anywhere in the valley. Escape to the hills, lest you be swept away.’ 18 And Lot said to them, ‘Oh, no, my lords. 19 Behold, your servant has found favor in your sight, and you have shown me great kindness in saving my life. But I cannot escape to the hills, lest the disaster overtake me and I die.’ 26 But Lot's wife, behind him, looked back, and she became a pillar of salt.
What do the men/angels tell Lot to do after they exited the city?
How does Lot respond?
Why do you think Lot’s wife turned back?
Why do you think Lot and his family were so uncommitted to following what the angels said?
Hebrews 11:8: By faith Abraham obeyed when he was called to go out to a place that he was to receive as an inheritance. And he went out, not knowing where he was going.
How did Lot’s brother (Abraham) respond to the Lord in Hebrews 11:8?
How was the response so different?
After the angels/men save Lot and his family, he still doesn't follow their instruction. I found this rather annoying, and then I started to think about myself. God, through Jesus, saved my life just like He saved Lot’s life, yet sometimes I don’t commit myself to the things that God says. Instead of delighting in His ways and trusting Him, I delight in the ways of the world.
What do you think it means to delight in the world?
Is this a good or bad thing?
Does your family ever see you delighting in the world?
Psalms 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart.
Psalms 37:23: The steps of a man are established by the Lord, when he delights in his way.
Does your family ever see you delighting in the Lord?
What do those things look like?
So often, I see Christians who only delight in the world, and unfortunately, this is what their families witness. I watch parents make things such as sports, work, grades, and appearances the only thing they delight in as a family. They spend their money, time, and effort in these delights and then wonder why their family is always looking back to the world. It is so important for Christians to delight in the Lord and the direction He has for us. This is how we will truly delight the family.