Lesson Three: Delivering the Family
Jayson Combs: Family Pastor
One of my good friends went to work for a moving company. Basically, his job was to pack an entire house into a truck to deliver the items to another location. After a 10-hour workday, my friend decided he was not cut out to be a part of the delivery service.
Delivering our families from the hurt, pain, and suffering of the world is actually a far more difficult mission than delivering furniture from one house to another. As the world rapidly changes and imposes itself on our families, how can we help to defend, and deliver the family to bring glory and honor to Christ? Today we will look at what the Word says about delivering the family.
Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. 2 Honor your father and mother (this is the first commandment with a promise), 3 that it may go well with you and that you may live long in the land.
Why does it say it is right?
Children, obey your parents in everything, for this pleases the Lord.
Why do you think it pleases the Lord for children to obey their parents?
Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is one. 5 You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your might. 6 And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. 7 You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise. 8 You shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes. 9 You shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates.
How was God expecting parents who followed Him to live according to verses 4 and 6?
What were the expectations of parents according to verses 7 through 9?
1: Delivering is About Bringing
Five-year-old birthday parties may be the most amazing things in the world (insert sarcasm here for many parents). There are usually two distinct types of parties at this age. There is “the drop off” party, where you drop off your child at an event facility, and let him or her run around like crazy for three hours while monitored by some professionals and mostly high schools teens. Then there is the “bring your child and family” kind of party, where you all attend and participate in the celebrations together, and where all parents can hopefully monitor the crazy five-year-olds.
What makes these parties so substantially different?
In Ephesians 6:4 the Bible tells us to “bring” our children up in the Lord. The word “bring” in the Greek means to “bring up to maturity, to nourish”. It’s more than just a “drop off.” It’s a process where we bring them along for the ride in this sometimes crazy, yet exciting Christian life.
What things hinder you from bringing your child up in the Lord (sin, time, job, laziness, TV, lack of patience, guilt, etc.)?
Just a simple FYI, your kids know you are not perfect. Sometimes, however, we try to make them think we are. When all is said and done, they don’t need perfect parents, they need real parents who are fighting to follow Jesus and will do whatever they can to bring their children along for the ride.
2: Delivering is About Discipline
I know, even saying the word “discipline” gets people anxious. In the Greek, the word “discipline” means to train, to steer, and to protect. The NIV says to “bring them up in training.” How is discipline more than just giving your children consequences for doing wrong?
Which of the three defining Greek words above do you feel you struggle with the most and why?
Which one of the three are you dealing with the most at this time?
“Parents provoke their children and discourage them by saying one thing and doing another—by always blaming and never praising. By being inconsistent and unfair in discipline and by showing favoritism in the home by making promises and not keeping them and by making light of problems that to the children are very important. Christian parents need the fullness of the Spirit so they can be sensitive to the needs and problems of their children” (Warren W. Wiersbe).
What do you think of this quote?
Do you fall into any of these struggles?
3: Delivering is About Instructing
The word “instruction” comes from the meaning “putting in the mind.”
But I want you to be wise as to what is good and innocent as to what is evil.
What are some things you can do to help put Godly instruction in your child's mind?
What are some ways you can use the church to help you?
Delivering the family may be one of the hardest things to do, but it is worth the fight. What is one thing you can take from this lesson to apply to your family this week?