Lesson One: Defining the Family
Jayson Combs: Family Pastor
It was game five of the 1990 NBA championships. The Pistons were up three games to one against the Portland Trailblazers as they chased a repeat championship title. With seconds left on the clock, Vinnie Johnson hit a game-winning shot that sealed the championship victory for the Bad Boys of the NBA. Vinnie was not a starter for the Pistons that year, but it cannot be denied that he played an important role in the championship series.
Can you think of someone who holds a special place in your heart?
What role did they play as they impacted your life?
Roles, whether in the church or the family, are one of the most debated topics in the church today. Let’s look to Scripture to learn what the roles are in Christ. Our main objective will then be to understand God’s big design for the family.
Galatians 3:28: There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither slave nor free, there is no male and female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus.
Romans 3:22-24: The righteousness of God through faith in Jesus Christ for all who believe. For there is no distinction: 23 for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God, 24 and are justified by his grace as a gift, through the redemption that is in Christ Jesus.
What do these verses say about who we are to Jesus?
Are there any differences for who can come to Christ?
Why do you think God chose these topics (ethnicity, gender, positions) to explain the equality that we all have before Christ?
Jesus showed this equality while on the earth. He talked with the woman at the well in John Chapter 4. Not only was she a woman, but she was a Samaritan woman. According to verse 27, the open actions of Christ completely stunned his disciples.
To go even further, Jesus even put the Pharisees and the adulterous woman on the same level in John 8. When they brought the woman before Jesus, He exclaimed that those who had no sin could cast the first stone.
These Scriptures beg the question: Does this mean that roles are done away with in the Church and further on into the family?
Let’s compare Scripture with Scripture...
Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, 26 that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, 27 so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish.
How does Paul describe the role of the husband to the church?
23 For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands. 25 Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, 26 that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, 27 so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish.
How does Paul describe the role of the wife to the church?
What are these roles representing?
Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. 2 “Honor your father and mother” (this is the first commandment with a promise), 3 “that it may go well with you and that you may live long in the land.
What are the roles of the children (If Christ did away with roles in the family and the church, then children would no longer be required to obey their parents)?
4 Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.
What is the role of a parent?
Why do you think roles are rejected in the church today?
Why are roles so valuable to the beautiful thing called Family?