Delights • Devotion 4

Vertical Delight
Pastor Ryan and Cathy Story

It would be hard to imagine when two people choose to get married their desire is to have a marriage that is full of tension and strife. Sadly, almost every couple goes through a moment or a season where their marriage is not how God intended it to be. Gentle answers are replaced with snips and quips. Moments of admiring the beauty and uniqueness of our spouse are replaced with criticalness. Communication is replaced with silence. A once warm communion is replaced with a cold cohabitation. No one while walking down the aisle says to themselves, “I think in less than two years, I want to constantly be at odds with the person I am committing to love and to hold.”

There are problems inside every relationship because every person in the world has a problem. Every person, outside of Jesus, was or will be born with a sinful heart. Sin causes us to focus solely on ourselves. The primary lie that Satan used on Eve in the Garden was that by eating from the Tree of Knowledge of Good and Evil, she would “be like God” (Genesis 3:5). The sinful desire of our hearts distorts every relationship we have, including the one with our Lord, by drawing us to a place where self rules. Any time there is tension in any relationship, if you search deep enough, the sin of pride is there.

When pride is ruling a person’s heart, it destroys the relationships we have with people, and it destroys the relationships with God. Any tension we may encounter in our marriage with the other person can only first be solved by ensuring the vertical relationship with God is healthy. If there are tensions in your marriage, the only way to solve them is to first ensure there are no tensions in your walk with Jesus.

Also, we cannot properly delight in our spouse if we are not delighting in the Lord. It is impossible to delight in the uniqueness of your spouse if you do not see them as a perfectly created being. You cannot delight in your spouse in times of second-guessing, if you do not believe that God, in His infinite wisdom and His perfect plan, joined you and your spouse together. In order to properly delight in your spouse, you have to delight in the Lord.

Psalm 37:3-5 says, “Trust in the Lord, and do good; dwell in the land and befriend faithfulness. Delight yourself in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart. Commit your way to the Lord; trust in him, and he will act.”
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