Nurturing • Husband and Wife
Dr. Randy T. Johnson | Growth Pastor
The Family Tree starts with a couple. When a man and woman get married, they may talk about enlarging the family, but it needs to start with their relationship to each other. Love and respect must be at the core. Nurturing starts with each other. The tendency can be to put all our focus on the children, but the Bible is clear that it needs to start with each other.
Ephesians 5:22-24 says, “Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands.” The wife is to love her man by respecting him. She needs to be proud of him and express it. He needs to be her number one priority, even before the children.
Before we men start applauding, verse 25 continues the conversation, “Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.” It must be important because in verse 28 Paul repeats the command to husbands, “In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.” The husband is to love his woman by sacrificing for her. He needs to go out of his way to serve her. She needs to be his number one priority, even before work or the children.
I find the topic of Love Languages helpful. I think it is important to figure out what activities and actions speak loudest to our spouse.
The five Love Languages:
1. Words of affirmation
2. Acts of service
3. Receiving gifts
4. Quality time
5. Physical touch
My wife and I have found that our Love Languages have changed a little through the years. Where me cleaning the kitchen (acts of service) was so appreciated, kind words reach her heart in a deeper way. Jewelry used to be the golden ticket, but now quality time speaks louder. It is important to discuss how to be better for and with each other.
Verse 33 summarizes for both husbands and wives, “However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.”