Creation • Devotion #4: Need for Community
Roger Allen | Recovery Director
I love people. When in a crowd, I seek out those that look out of place, the “wallflowers” you might say. I believe that all should feel welcome. Even as a child, I would search out those who did not seem to be accepted. I encouraged those that would isolate themselves from others. I sought out the introverts. I would not allow you to leave without knowing at least one person in that room. Often that person was me!
I was constantly roaming in search of new friends. I remember one afternoon when I was about seven years old, after opening our Christmas gifts that morning, we traveled to my Grandmother’s apartment in Romeo, Michigan. A short time after arriving the search for me began. It finally ended at the end of the hall where I had introduced myself to my Grandmother’s neighbor. Excited, with a full plate of cookies and a huge smile, I proceeded to tell my story of how I introduced myself at every apartment on that floor. Did I tell you, “I love people?”
Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 reminds us, “Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their toil. For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to lift him up!”
As I have grown older, my desire to meet new people has not diminished. While I do seek alone time, I am quite content being surrounded by a roomful of people. Even in the most trying times, I prefer the company of others. As Ecclesiastes says, “Two are better than one.” I realize that not everyone shares my enthusiasm about making friends, but there are wisdom and benefits in sharing experiences. Words of encouragement, compassion, and a helping hand make a difference. Friends, family, and most of all your spouse can comfort and console when it is needed most.
However, today we are becoming more isolated than ever. With the advent of social media, we have traded in a real and tangible relationship for a virtual one. People are never having a real commitment and end up settling for something less than intended. We are now in isolation instead of a relationship God had planned for us.
Proverbs 18:1 adds, “Whoever isolates himself seeks his own desire; he breaks out against all sound judgment.”
Many today have chosen a life of meaningless partnerships in place of living, breathing relationships. Devoid of any real commitment and emotional attachment, they believe there is freedom in their lifestyle. Never caring to be their brother’s keeper and having the chance to leave at the first sign of trouble, they never really commit. God never intended it to be so. In Genesis, after He created the Heavens and the Earth, God looked at His creation and said, “It is very good” (Genesis 1:31). However, when it came to Adam, He said, “It is not good that the man should be alone.” The whole verse in Genesis 2:18 reads, “Then the Lord God said, ‘It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.’”
“Eve” as she is called, is now Adam’s “help meet.” Unlike the other animals of the sea, land, and air, she is part of Adam. Created from his rib, she is a suitable helper to him. She is one that will strengthen and comfort him when he is weak. She was the perfect creation for Adam just as my wife has been the perfect creation for me. After 37 years of marriage, it has become very clear what God had intended all along. We have learned to care, encourage, and lift up each other. We walk side by side as He intended.