Lust #3 – Keep your eyes to your self-Lust
Ryan Story | Student Pastor
On April 5, 2014, I entered into a covenant with my wife. I promised her that she “would be my lawfully wedded wife, to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, until death do us part.” Most people probably said very similar things. Now we could chat all day long about how broken our society is, and how marriage is no longer what it was “back in the day.” The reality is marriages fall apart inside the church at about the same rate that they do outside of it. Now, I am a novice in the husband game. The amount of stupid things I still do makes every “marriage veteran” shake their head. However, there is one thing I have always sworn I would do, and that is to uphold the covenant I made with my wife.
Lust destroys people plain and simple. It destroys young people, old people, married people, single people, men, and women. Teenagers who are never taught proper Godly self-control grow up to become adults who struggle with the exact thing. Whenever I am faced with a problem in my spiritual walk, I always try to go to the root. Think about the last time you had weeds in your yard. It does you no good to spray or just to cut them; you have to yank it out by its root to get rid of them. In my opinion, the root of the sin known as lust first starts with our eyes. The reality is we are all visually stimulated, and men are worse for wear. Job 31:1 says “I have made a covenant with my eyes; how then could I gaze at a virgin?” By no means have I arrived, but if I made a covenant with my wife that she was my one and only, then I had better uphold that in every facet of my being. That means I will honor that covenant by the way I provide for her, stick it out with her during the good and hard times, and the things I look at. While on my wedding day I may not have said those words, shortly after being married I prayed them to God as a sign that I was serious about my marriage. The world we live in claims that there is “no harm in a glance” and we can “look but don’t touch.” That is the exact opposite of what the Bible says. We live in a society with a lust problem causing a pornographic epidemic, and it is ruining families. Let us be honest; that problem is hurting families inside the church.
“If a woman sees her husband’s eyes also affirming the beauty of another woman, she ceases to feel special.” I always want to make sure my wife knows how beautiful I think she is, so I never want to leave a time bomb in her mind that will cause her pain. Simply put, if you struggle with “keeping your eyes to yourself,” remember this, the moment you married your wife she became the standard of beauty for the rest your life. Stare at some clouds, look at your shoes, or look at the time. Remember, you entered not only a covenant with her, but with God.